NYC MTA Trains: The Epitome of Entertainment

Riding trains in New York is unlike anything I have ever experienced. You get a bit of everything. It's so annoying driving through NYC so everyone catches the train.

In the morning, you see young bankers, lawyers, and executives riding downtown to city hall or the financial district. The young designers, fashionistas, and VCs stop down by SOHO. The tourists stop in Midtown. Some people head uptown, but I'm not sure what jobs those lucky people are headed to; they avoid the train congestion. Outside of the regular train riders, you have the performers, beggars, singers, and etc EVERYDAY. Given this interesting assortment of people on the train, there is something hilarious to see everyday. 

Today on the train two guys got on the train blaring music from their blue tooth speaker. Now generally trains are pretty quiet, so people having loud conversations is usually surprising. So when these two guys get on the train blaring old school Usher, I just chuckled. Some people were annoyed but I was entertained. Each day I see something new. 

The coolest thing I saw on the train was a performance by some teenagers. The young performers were so good that I gave them close to 5 bucks (my average donation is a dollar). They were flipping down the thin aisles of the train. At one point, in some feat of magic, two of the performers grabbed each other's ankles and arms and proceeded to roll down the aisle together. I was pretty impressed. They did all of this in the time it took to progress from one stop to the next. NYC trains are full of interesting things and you will see literally anything if you ride long enough. 

Workaholics Anonymous

I don't need to attend AA meetings. I need to attend WA meetings. I have placed a large focus of my time and energy on professional success.  It's partially due to the fact that I don't have any kids yet and I live far from the majority of my family. At least that's what I tell myself.  Maybe I'll still be this way once I have kids...who knows? I like working. I like putting energy into my own ideas as well as learning new skills from traditional jobs. I read tons of self help books and educational books. I don't mind working 12, 13, 14 hour days as long as I like it and I can find some flexibility to mix in hobbies that I like.  

So I ask you and myself, is that wrong?  

My instinct tells me no but you also have to understand what is important. This goes back to your 80 year view. Most people don't care if they are remembered as a great banker or consultant or tech guru. They want to be remembered for being a mother or mentor or philanthropist. 

I have been reading a book called, "Why Should White Guys Have All the Fun." This book chronicles the life of Reginald "Reg" Lewis. At one point he was the richest Black Man in the US. He was admitted to Harvard Law without taking the LSAT or even applying. He started his own law firm two years out of law school. Then Reg eventually a $2BN dollar corporation in the 80s. This was all done by 47. He died at 50 of brain cancer two months after he was diagnosed. He had a wife and two small daughters that he never saw.  

What I wouldn't give to understand what he was thinking and feeling during those last two months. Did he have any regrets? Would he do things differently if he was given another chance? Was the personal success gratifying enough to have missed so much of his family? Maybe his actions aligned with his 80 year view. I don't know. But as I think about my own 80 year view, I hope I don't regret the actions of the young me. 

Step My Game Up

Each day that I work at Techstars, I realize how much more I need to learn. Some people are a one (wo)man show and kill everything that they do. It amazes me sometimes how skilled many of my colleagues are and how multidimensional they are. It's key to surround yourself by people that force you to step up your game. Because of this reality, I am spending my time learning more and more. 

My direct manager can create a financial model, help you design slides, edit your audio/video, and then school you on music. These skills use both sides of the brain and require bits of creativity along with quantitative prowess. I'm not quite there yet but I'm working on it. So I'm back on my continued learning and education plan.  

I join different organizations, attend various schools, and spend so much time reading so that I can polish my own skills and learn new ones. After joining Techstars, I realized how many new skill sets I still need to learn and am going to push myself to master them. Our results speak volumes about us and I feel like I can produce better results if I learn a few other things. I'll probably be back in school at 50 trying to learn something else. Who knows. But for now I'm back on the grind. 

Inside Out - A Pixar Film

This movie was another Pixar grade A quality film. I started thinking about what emotion personnel I have in my brain. Am I more the happy or angry or sad or disgusted or scared type (these were the different characters in the movie). Then I started analyzing how I felt inside and how I truly feel. 

Everyday I feel this burning desire inside to just have fun. I can't explain it. My mind and heart are telling me to have more fun and just enjoy things. These feelings especially surface when I'm super sleep, very inebriated, or bored. Maybe my mind and body are trying to tell me something. Guess I should listen. 

80 Year View

It's all about backwards planning. Teach for America (TFA) taught me many practical skills that can be utilized across several disciplines. One skill that we spent a large amount of time on was backwards planning.  Backwards planning is just as the name insinuates - you think about the result that you want to attain and then plan backwards about how you are going to get there. So if I want to buy a new car at the end of 2016, I would think about what my monthly payments would be, which lenders I would choose, and plan it out month over month.

The 80 year view is putting yourself in your future 80 year old mind and body. In this 80 year view, you look back on your life and think about all of the wonderful things you have done. You think back to your 2015 self. Remember it is 2095 in your 80 year view. Are you happy with how you did things? Did you work too hard? Did you not work hard enough? Did you cherish and build relationships? Did you care for loved ones? Did you have the right focus and mindset? The 80 year view helps you put you thoughts and action into perspective. It helps you backwards plan your life. You should do this exercise very often. It helps ground your everyday actions in what's important. The 80 year view is the long long term plan.

Practice Makes a Perfect Pitch

Years ago Allen Iverson, the Phiadelphia 76ers' star player, was confused about why the press was discussing why he missed practice in a press conference. He spent several minutes in the press conference (where he said "practice" 20 times) going through his diatribe about why they should leave him alone about him missing practice. It's a hilarious clip by the way (http://youtu.be/eGDBR2L5kzI - for you viewing pleasure). Sports are all about muscle memory, so the more you practice the better you become. If you look at clips of Steph Curry (23-0 record this year) this year, he attributes all of his current success to relentless practice. He makes those crazy, wack shots because he practices them everyday. 

This notion of practice plays out in every aspect of life. It affects how you perform at the job,in a sport, and EVEN at pitch events. People say, "you play like you practice" or they say "piss poor preparation leads to piss poor performance." It all lends to the same conclusion, you do better if you practice. 

Now "everyone" knows this, but most don't do it. Pitches should be practiced how they will eventually be performed. Take the time and create a great script. This could be one line for a 30 second pitch or several pages for a 5 minute pitch. As the pitches become more detailed and long, you have to make sure that you put the preparation time into the pitch, so that it comes off natural and effortless.  Steve Jobs didn't just practice his famed speeches the day before. I'm sure it took months and worked with tons of team members to create the perfect product. Perfection takes TLC and time. Treat pitches like any other high stakes deadline and you will give it the effort required.  

What to do When Everything Goes Wrong

Sometimes everything just goes wrong. First you wake up late. Then you miss your bus. You forget your lunch. Get yelled at by your boss. And finally miss the premiere of your favorite TV show. EVERYTHING goes wrong. The day has no saving grace.

These spurts of problems can occur in a day, over a few weeks, or even over several months. It feels hopeless sometimes and it seems like the negativity will never end. When we are at these low points, we have to remember that things always work out.

I always tell people that everything will workout because it must. There is no alternative to things not working out in my opinion. Maybe I'm a glass half-full kind of guy or just naively optimistic, but I feel like everything always works out how it is supposed to be. If you miss a train, maybe it was Devine intervention to keep you out of a certain situation. Blessings are considered blessings because many times we don't realize that we had received them.

Stay positive and remember that every dark moment eventually turns to light. If you feel like you can no longer do it alone, then STOP doing it alone. That's why you have a support system of friends and family. This is what therapists and counseled get paid for. This is where support groups come in handy. There are several resources that are available for you to get over this hump so never feel like you are alone. 

Ask and You Will Receive...*May Receive

Ask and you will receive is a common phrase that has been stated by people since the beginning of time. I like to adjust this statement and say, "Ask and you may receive." Sometimes your asks don't pan out. This is perfectly fine. Everyone isn't going to return your calls, reply back to your emails, or want to talk with you. BUT there is ALWAYS one person who will end up actually speaking with you on a topic. I've learned this lesson time and time again. Sometimes I feel like reverting back to my old ways, where I don't message people persistently or reach out to a random person that I don't know.  Then I remember a closed mouth doesn't get fed...and generally people want to help you eat! 

Currently I'm very interested in learning about crowdfunding. It's where I spend most of my thought energy these days. But I initially didn't know much about it. So I went to this Meetup and met a very senior employee in a equity crowdfunding space. I messaged him about connecting, so I could pick his brain about topics, and he said yes.  He ended up taking an hour and a half out of his schedule to discuss the nuances of crowdfunding with me. I also really wanted to speak with a senator about some new regulations that he helped pass in the crowdfunding space.  I emailed him. Then I emailed him again. Then I called. Then I emailed again. Then again. Finally the director at his office reached out to talk with me about the regulation.  

Sometimes you have to keep asking and be persistent. Sometimes you have to be downright annoying. Other times you have to get a warm introduction. Just keep at it and eventually the world will open up. Ask...and you may receive. 

Execution 101: Ideas are ONLY Ideas

People are always sooooo scared to share their ideas with friends, family, and strangers. There is this intrinsic fear that someone is going to steal their "great" idea. I don't want to burst anyone's bubble, but if it's a good idea and in a good space, then someone is probably already doing it and they probably have better funding.  

Mike Lazerowe said it best..."you are more likely to destroy your own company than competition. Between funding issues, founder issues, execution issues, and everything inbetween, there is a good chance you may not end up with a billion dollar company. Unicorns are hard to come by in real life and in businesses. 

The main issue with having paranoia around an idea is that it's just an idea. The process of building a actual company is 1000x harder than pontificating one drunken night in your room. The only people lucky enough to benefit off of an "idea" are the Winklevoss twins from Facebook and the long lost Snapchat founder. Be open to sharing your idea to people. It's okay. Don't give away all of the IP, trade secrets, and secret sauce, but share it enough so that people can help augment your idea and actually help you make it into a business. 

Independent Contractors are Taking Over!

I started reading "Serving Workers in the Gig Economy" the other day. It's a pretty interesting read. I'll try to explain it without spoiling the book for you. In short it's about the rise of the "Gig Economy" which in short is in reference to the rise of Independent Contractors.

So the first logical question is, WHAT IS AN INDEPENDENT CONTRACTOR. Legal Zoom has a pretty good description here. In short an employee is hired on by the company on contract. You do not receive benefits like health insurance, workers comp, retirement, etc. Many companies hire contract workers for non-essential jobs because they can save 18% in expenses. For example, if you hire a graphic designer as a independent contractor in NYC, you would have to pay $50K, but if you hire that same graphic designer as an employee, you have to pay him almost $60K. 

Now that we have handled the concept of independent contractor, I will discuss why this book is interesting. So the business case for startups in the Gig Economy is huge. Unlike full-time employees, independent contractors have to take care of everything. They have to remember to file taxes correctly, get insurance, get their own insurance, find new training, and etc. This list goes on and on. Most independent contractors have no idea how to do this and there isn't a simple, inexpensive solution to find many of these resources. Where there is a large ever increasing problem, there is a need for solutions from innovative entrepreneurs. Blog VI.

Cool Company Alert: Scentbird

                                                            Screen shot from a dying phone (22%)

Love cologne or perfume? If yes, then you need to join this site. I like cologne but it's generally too expensive. Why pay $108 for a cologne that you only wear three times a year. This startup gives you a trial cologne each month. My month one is Tom Ford! Pay $150 or so a year for 12 scents or $150 for one. Which option would you choose? You know you have a good product when new customers are evangelizing it. Thanks to my girl for getting me the subscription! Blog 3

What is in a title?

                                                          Please excuse my dear aunt fuzzy photo!

So why did I name my blog, "Through the Backdoor Only"? Well to keep it blunt, I wasn't let in to the front door of many places in my career. I've always had to find a backdoor. It kind of reminds me of growth hacking. You have to hustle your way in to any place that you want to be. I didn't initially realize how important hustle, grit, determination, and all the other cliche words were until my teaching experience and until trying to get my foot in to tech and tech investing. Most people feel awkward after sending two emails to a person. I've had to send 4, 5, 6, 10 emails to a person before I could even get a "Let's sit down for coffee" message. It's been a struggle each step of the way and I'm better for it. So this blog is my ode to the backdoor. Many people are too proud to use it, but sometimes, you have to use whatever method you can to break into your future. Blog 2.